I spotted a gorgeous ring last week while at the jewellers. I don’t make it a habit to walk into jewellery shops because lets face it, jewellery is an expensive hobby to get into! 😛 But while browsing, my eyes fell on a ring that I found myself really liking. It was a diamond ring with a solitaire and was interesting enough that I felt it could pass off as a regular diamond ring and not an engagement ring. However, I also am the sort not to really care even it indeed looked like an engagement ring 🙂
Being a big ticket purchase, naturally I wasn’t ready to drop the money off the bat. I later talked to 3 people about it and was a little surprised when one of them told me that I shouldn’t be buying my own diamond solitaire but should wait for someone to buy it – possibly meaning as an engagement ring. However, if it was a different design then maybe yes, get it. The other 2 I spoke to said “If you love it, get it!”
It got me curious to know if people actually thought this. Would you buy your own diamond ring or will you prefer to wait for someone to buy it for you? For the sake of argument, lets assume that you can afford it yourself 🙂
As I’ve said above, I don’t usually care what people think. I’m not a slave to convention although I do know that people have quite set ideas about things like diamond solitaires. If I like the design and the price is friendly enough to my wallet without putting me in the poor house, then I’d just get it. Interestingly, my Mum told me the exact same thing when I spoke to her about it. She said get it, if you like it! So clearly, that’s where I get my unconventional streak from 😀
Granted, those who are already engaged or married may have different thoughts from singles, for whom this maybe a bit of a touchy subject, so I do think it would be interesting to hear what you think 🙂
Will you buy a diamond (solitaire) ring for yourself or will you prefer that someone buy it for you?
Paris B
LOL I love this post Paris dearie! 😀
If you really like it, buy it. Oh well of course if you can tell your soulmate/boyfriend that you would love to have that diamond ring for this special Valentine’s day or whatsoever occasion, he might consider buying it for you too 😀
As for me, I am not really into jewellery (yet, perhaps :P) but I would love to have a Patek Philippe or a Chopard watch as the engagement gift 😛 LOL Sorry, though this may be out of the subject but just my opinion to (Ahemm) give someone some ideas here 😛
ooh you have expensive tastes AnT but exquisite tastes in watches! 😀 I have never been into jewellery but for some reason I liked this one I saw. So I guess its fate 😉
LOL Yes indeed, the “E” tastes in watches. Just realise myself a practical person as well as quite a realistic person too sometimes 😛
So its fate that the diamond ring is yours! Go get it 😀
Hmmm, I’d still leave diamond solitaires to someone buying for me. I already have two, but still think I will not buy my own.
haha, but I do like to buy rings for myself. Just bought a sapphire solitaire in Dec to mark my first work year.
What a nice way to mark your first work year! Jewellery are awesome milestone markers because they last forever and you can wear them forever too!
Even though I am on the brink of getting engaged to my boyfriend and we have gone ring-hunting (To gauge prices), I have told him that I don’t expect a diamond ring, especially the traditional solitaire engagement ring, as nice as they are, and that in all honesty, I don’t think I want one. I could afford them myself if I want one anyway, and I prefer other types of rings out there as an engagement ring- as seeing that I am going to wear it almost permanently, I find that a solitaire diamond ring is quite impractical and would prefer a more practical design, diamond or not. It doesn’t matter 😛
That and I have not seen any I like yet 😛 My fingers are pretty picky with diamond rings and not all designs look good haha!
Sounds like congratulations will be in order soon? 🙂
Well, if you think about “sentimental value”, any ring can be an engagement ring, even a soda can ring! ^.^
My “real” jewelry are all gifts from mom heh heh heh, no diamonds yet, but mostly white gold.
But personally, I think that if you like it and you can afford it, and most likely, you will wear it every single day, get it! ^.^ You are a special someone to yourself too, if you get what I mean heh heh
(Psst. I would like the One Ring please! Does not have to have diamonds heh heh)
Er… you will have to go into Mordor to rescue the One Ring? 😀
This is an interesting topic. I personally think that if I like the ring I will get it myself. If I have to wait for the someone to give me and if the someone never “appear”, then I will deny myself of the ring, why torture myself. Having said that, I do not fancy wearing any jewelery at the moment. But if I see one that I like in the future, I will definitely get it. Why wait?
I like the way you think Lavender 😀 You’re absolutely right – we can’t be waiting forever and if we want something and can get it, why not just go right ahead? 😀
Given a choice – I’ll buy my own!
But i am not a gold/platinum/diamond person, i love SILVER 926! My husband is very lucky! haha!
Haha indeed! Your husband is very lucky but I’m sure you are just as lucky 😉
I have gotten myself two so far – why wait? They are mainly rewards from cash accumulated from the extra days I put in at work. Like what Destiny’s Child sang – the rock i’m rockin’, i bought it! Heh…
Yay! Good on ya and I plan to do the same thing you have 😉 We work hard so we should reward ourselves right? 😉
If you like it, just get it. 🙂
However, I might be too practical to get a diamond solitaire for myself because
1. Price point. Good diamonds are not cheap.
2. As price is not cheap, it should be symbolic. As I’m still single, it might turn away any potential suitors. In the event there is any…hehehehe….
3. It’s just too damn irritating to keep entertaining people’s question of if I’m suddenly engaged. The whole explaining part is too tiring!!!
But this is just me.
Good points Shay but these days, lots of people wear right hand rings too, so long as you don’t confound the problem further by wearing it on the left hand hehe… 😉 That said, also consider the point that some men love a challenge so if they think you may be promised or taken, you may just suddenly take on a challenge 😉
Before i got married, i bought 2 diamond rings for myself because 1. I wasn’t gonna just wait and expect a worthy man to buy it for me and 2. I just don’t give a damn about what people think because I liked the design and I was gonna get it no matter what.
I don’t get what the fuss is all about. It’s just a thing (only substantially more expensive).
Yay I’m just like you then 😀 I don’t see the fuss either and besides, diamond rings are really pretty 😀
as they say, diamonds are a girl’s best friend!! 😀
Hm… if it looks too much like an engagement ring, I’d feel a little weird about it. Plus, the questions would be rather annoying after a while, don’t you think?
But I’m kinda thinking of getting myself a ring for my graduation, in a design I really like and in a floral cluster, plus I usually wear rings on my middle finger as they don’t disturb me as much there (and seem less suspicious. xD) Maybe you’d consider that?
A floral cluster ring sounds so delicate and pretty! You should get one to mark a big change in your life 😀 I’m not fussed about what people think but my friend seemed to me 😀
While it is a romantic notion that your first diamond ring should *ideally* be from your significant other, I would purchase my own diamond ring 1) if I could afford it, 2) if I really liked it and 3) despite me not having a significant other to get it from. One of the things I like being a career woman is making money for yourself and getting things as and when you like/can afford. So buy it! 🙂
Amen! 😀 Wasn’t seeking validation because my mind’s pretty made up but I thought it such an interesting topic to see how people would react to this question 😀
I’ll get it! I’ve bought myself diamond jewellery but not rings. My husband bought my first diamond ring before he even proposed to me. It wasn’t an engagement ring (mine is a sapphire ring). If you really like it, go for it! 😉
I’ve been thinking and I realised I haven’t really bought any proper jewellery myself before! What a great way to start 😀
Hi Paris! I’m currently single & if I really like it so much, I’d just go get it myself 🙂 I’ve been in your shoes before, hehe. I really liked this one particularly diamond ring (not a solitaire but could pass of as an engagement ring) & decided to just buy it. Even though the design does look like an engagement ring, it doesn’t really matter to me 🙂 I love it to bits & wear it often. I’ve been single for years & am happy with my life so why not just pamper myself with the things I like (as long as I can afford to buy that is :))
Thank you so much for sharing, Rin 😀 I have my mind pretty much made up so I wasn’t too fussed about it all. As far as I was concerned, engagement ring or no, we’re the ones wearing it and if we’re happy with it why not right? If you think about it, almost any ring could pass for an engagement ring 😀 I guess my friend just felt that some conventions ought to be held onto while I say hang it all! 😀
U r welcome 🙂 True. As long as we’re happy 😀
If money were no object, yes, I would definitely buy what I like myself. If it makes me happy, why not?
Why not indeed! 🙂
If money is not a problem, i’ll follow my heart and buy it… i believe my heart will be fulled of joy everytime i see it glimmer on my finger 🙂 that feeling is priceless!
Haha speaking from experience? 😉 I think my heart will go “Oh boy! I’d better wear it everyday so I get my full value!” 😉
I would hint to my hubby so he will buy it and add to my collection. heheh
but if i am single, i would probably buy trilogy ring or something else that doesn’t look like a solitaire like those rings with 3 diamonds? i think its gorgeous. 🙂
i think if you wear a solitaire, it may send the wrong signal to ur suiters that you are off the market already ;P
Smart move Stacey 😉 Just make sure hubby gets the hint loud and clear exactly which one you’re eyeing 😉 As for wearing it, I plan on using it as a right hand ring, and I also know the men are strange creatures – they may perceive it to be a challenge 😉
If you like it, get it. Even your mother agrees!
Now it certainly would be nice to have someone buy for you, but only you know if that is realistic, so why wait? Anyway, I think the only reason people are resistant is because of the convention and significance to some people, behind this specific type of ring. I’m sure if it was set with a different type of stone or was a different piece of jewellery, they wouldn’t care as much.
Would people say you should hold off on designer bags and wait for another to buy you one? It’s a similar expense, so it doesn’t seem to different to me, only in terms of the sentimental value perhaps.
Haha I love the practical comparison Leila, and I have to fully agree with you. I made the same comparison myself, and I almost choked when I realised I could have been decking myself out in diamonds instead of mere leather >.<
Go for it! Why wait ? Life too short to wait……and wait…..
You are absolutely right! *runs out of door credit card in hand* 😉
Well…let me put it this way. I’ve been waiting for that special someone to buy that special solitaire (yeah – I an ole-fashion-die-hard-romantic) and was told straight to the face that … you know, Buffet regretted buying the necklace for this wife coz had he invested that moolah then, the returns would have been astronomical in today’s values, so why don’t we save up for an investment with better returns? 🙁
I hate to admit the truth in that statement (and certainly never to him!!!) and that’s why I end up with the habit of “studying” the prices of solitaires everytime they appear in adverts. Ho-hum…
I do see the point raised by your SO but jewellery is very special to a woman, especially when its gifted by someone she loves, which is really priceless. Perhaps you could then get yourself one and that might start the ball rolling 😉
As long as you don’t wear it on “the finger”, I wouldn’t think it’s a big deal whether people think it’s an engagement ring or not. The middle finger however, is a different story…
They say if you’re still thinking about it after a few days (or weeks), then perhaps you should just get it already (sounds like you’ve made up your mind?).
Paranoid me is just thinking about stories about fingers get lopped off willy nilly for rings, but you should be fine.
Yes the mind’s pretty much made up – but this has been a most entertaining discussion topic 😀 I quite naturally won’t be wearing it on “the finger” unless I plan to really mess about with people’s minds 😉 It promises to be an entertaining affair LOL