I spotted a gorgeous ring last week while at the jewellers. I don’t make it a habit to walk into jewellery shops because lets face it, jewellery is an expensive hobby to get into! 😛 But while browsing, my eyes fell on a ring that I found myself really liking. It was a diamond ring with a solitaire and was interesting enough that I felt it could pass off as a regular diamond ring and not an engagement ring. However, I also am the sort not to really care even it indeed looked like an engagement ring 🙂
Being a big ticket purchase, naturally I wasn’t ready to drop the money off the bat. I later talked to 3 people about it and was a little surprised when one of them told me that I shouldn’t be buying my own diamond solitaire but should wait for someone to buy it – possibly meaning as an engagement ring. However, if it was a different design then maybe yes, get it. The other 2 I spoke to said “If you love it, get it!”
It got me curious to know if people actually thought this. Would you buy your own diamond ring or will you prefer to wait for someone to buy it for you? For the sake of argument, lets assume that you can afford it yourself 🙂
As I’ve said above, I don’t usually care what people think. I’m not a slave to convention although I do know that people have quite set ideas about things like diamond solitaires. If I like the design and the price is friendly enough to my wallet without putting me in the poor house, then I’d just get it. Interestingly, my Mum told me the exact same thing when I spoke to her about it. She said get it, if you like it! So clearly, that’s where I get my unconventional streak from 😀
Granted, those who are already engaged or married may have different thoughts from singles, for whom this maybe a bit of a touchy subject, so I do think it would be interesting to hear what you think 🙂
Will you buy a diamond (solitaire) ring for yourself or will you prefer that someone buy it for you?
Paris B
Jenni says
February 12, 2012 at 8:48 amI say if it is an engagement ring, or if it is my first diamond ring, I wouldn’t buy for myself. Now, if I already had one diamond ring (or two, or three..) then I see no problem adding to my collection!
Paris B says
February 12, 2012 at 6:43 pmThanks for your thoughts Jenni – my friend seemed to think so too 🙂
Connie De Alwis says
February 12, 2012 at 8:54 amIf I could afford it and I like it enough to spend on it, I’d buy it myself 🙂
Paris B says
February 12, 2012 at 6:43 pmWell we would be the best people to know what we wanted eh? 😉
Hasegawa Ayane says
February 12, 2012 at 9:03 amI don’t see any reason not to (especially if I can afford it) 😛
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:31 pmIndependent women us all! 😀
Sandra says
February 12, 2012 at 9:24 amI’m not engaged/married yet. But I’ll get it for myself if I really, really, really like it. 😉
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:31 pmWhich is exactly what I think – life’s too short 😀
Lily says
February 12, 2012 at 9:28 amWell, my first was a gift from my parents, then the next few were gifts from my hubby… if I were to get another, I wouldn’t mind gifting myself. But in times like these, where snatch thefts and robberies are abundant, I hardly wear any diamonds out. So, I’d rather purchase something else with that money!
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:35 pmYup thefts and robberies will always be a deterring factor for wearing jewellery. Depends on where one goes and the occasion I guess – wouldn’t flash it too much if I do get it LOL! 😉
Isabel says
February 12, 2012 at 9:30 amWhy shouldn’t I buy one for myself if I 1. want it and 2. can afford it? Societal conventions be stuffed! But seeing the the price tag won’t exactly be small, I would buy it to celebrate something that is meaningful to myself.
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:39 pmPrecisely my thoughts – it will of course be a significant purchase and one to mark a milestone <- geddit? 😉
xin says
February 12, 2012 at 9:33 amIf i love it i’d get it, of coz if it’s free all the better, else it’s still cool anyway 😉
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:39 pmHaha yes indeed, free is always best la provided their taste don’t suck hehe … 😉
lyn says
February 12, 2012 at 10:00 amI don’t see anything wrong in getting a diamond ring yourself. If you like it and can afford it, got for it! Honestly, you don’t need a man for such matters.
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:40 pmLOL I could just “hear” you say that you know and I fully concur on all points 😀
Dawn says
February 12, 2012 at 10:00 amIt would be nice if someone would give me one… But if I really like a certain ring, I’d buy it! 🙂
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:40 pmI think most of us think so too – if we are gifted one, great. But if not, we aren’t above buying one for ourselves either 😀 I love being independent 🙂
Joyce says
February 12, 2012 at 10:16 amI’m very picky, so I would definitely want to pick out the ring myself, but someone will have to pay it for me though. haha..just kidding!
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:40 pmLOL Very clever! 😉
iamtheanonymous says
February 12, 2012 at 10:16 amI feel that if I really like it and have the cash, I would get it! It’s not worth waiting for someone to buy one for you 🙂
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:41 pmToo true – what if that someone never does eh?
nanichen says
February 12, 2012 at 10:27 amIf i can afford it and i really really like it, then i wouldn’t mind to buy it myself.
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:41 pmSeems like we all seem to think the same way!
Tine says
February 12, 2012 at 11:01 amBoth for me. I definitely would love to have someone buy diamonds for me, but if I can afford it, I’d buy it myself. I may have to wait yonks for someone to buy it for me 😛
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:42 pmLOL! I think its nice knowing that someone can buy it for you but if you wanted to, you too could buy your own. That’s probably best 😀
beetrice says
February 12, 2012 at 11:08 amIf someone gets it for me, great. But like most of the others, I’d get them for myself too if I really liked and could afford it! 😉
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:42 pmYeap! There’s a reason we work this hard for our pay 😉
Mrs Top Monkey says
February 12, 2012 at 11:21 amGet it. Why wait. We buy other trinkets for ourselves so why not a diamond ring?
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:43 pmBest answer ever! 😀 If I’m going to buy myself a Chanel bag what’s a diamond ring (that is quite probably cheaper than that darned bag too!)
AnT says
February 14, 2012 at 11:29 amLOL The darned bag is probably more practical than the diamond ring 😛 Sorry dearie, sometimes I can be so practical 😛
Sarah says
February 12, 2012 at 11:35 amIf I like a certain design and can afford it, I’ll definitely get it for myself =)
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:43 pmIts nice to know we are in concert on being able to fend for ourselves 😀
Jasmine says
February 12, 2012 at 11:46 amif I really liked it I’d tell my SO, making clear that it’s not because I expect him to get it for me but rather if he’s thinking of gift ideas, look no further!
I’d wait for him to get it (because it’s lovely to give him the benefit of the doubt, plus, delaying gratification helps me figure out if I really want or need it).
After the next milestone day and nothing materialises …then I’ll go get it myself!
Phoenix says
February 13, 2012 at 10:58 amI really like what you said about giving ur other half the benefit of the doubt first while taking that time to figure out if you really want it & then, should the next special day arrives without the ring, it’s time to get it ourselves. Totally agree with you as i couldn’t have said it better myself. 😉
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:44 pmThat’s an interesting thought Jasmine 🙂 Give the fella a chance right? But the nice thing is knowing that even if nothing happens, you could still get it yourself!
LeGeeque says
February 12, 2012 at 12:51 pmI’d get it, PB but you already know my response. Getting something for yourself especially jewellery is a great milestone marker. I love doing that for myself. I have a few rings that I got just because I want to celebrate something (massive project completed, career milestone, etc) Stuff rules and conventions. life is too short to wait around for a man to get us something we want. Besides, I have too much pride to ask for a fancy gift and too independent to want to wait and see and ask. I’m behind you all the way in this. Pieces of jewelry which speak to us don’t come by often. Get it.
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:47 pmI have to agree with you about jewellery we like not coming by very often. I don’t have anything for rings but when I saw this, it just spoke to me, which is saying something! I actually feel weird when someone splashes out that much money on me. I’d rather splash my own 😛
Lisa says
February 12, 2012 at 1:18 pmI’ve had this thought in January. I’ve not bought any real jewelry in the past 10 years. So, i’ve made up my mind to spend less on cosmetics this year. And reward myself with a diamond ring at the end of the year. I’m not going to wait for someone to get me one. I’ll just work hard and get it myself. 😉
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:47 pmYay! We’ll be in on this together Lisa! 😀
Amanda says
February 12, 2012 at 1:23 pmIf I can afford it, I will of course buy it. But now I’m more into gold, because it seems to hold more value with time passing by. Yes, I’m a practical person 🙂
Paris B says
February 13, 2012 at 4:48 pmDo you mean gold tablets? I’ve been told to invest in them too because I’m told I could reap better rewards instead of from jewellery … but you have to admit jewellery is pretty! 🙂