Saturday again – time moves so quickly these days. I don’t like taking up lots of your time on a Saturday (there’s more fun things to do out there!) but if you have a little time, here’s a question for you.
How do you deal with criticism?
Do you lash out? Get upset? Accept it and move on?
When I was younger (hah!) I was a bit of a hot-head so when criticized, whether rightly or wrongly, I’d lash out almost immediately. Nevermind that it was constructive criticism. I’d lash out anyway because I was always right! Take that! 😈
And then I’d get upset because deep inside I knew they were right but I was just too proud to admit it.
These days that I’m older (and wiser – haah! 😛 ) I pause first before I see red. I give myself a few seconds or minutes to consider if the criticism might be accurate or correct. If it is, I accept it and do what I can to adopt it, albeit it may be a little grudgingly.
If it isn’t, I say so. Not by lashing out but by taking a reasoned approach wherever possible. This avoids confrontation but it is hard because I’m naturally hot-headed. Yet I’ve learnt that this way, I don’t lose a friend or make someone else and myself angry, I don’t get my blood pressure up, and people might actually see they were wrong.
However, if it is criticism I cannot react to personally e.g. something online on another website or blog, or hearsay from a third party then I let it slide. No point making a mountain out of a molehill or getting angry against faceless aggressors who are too gormless to tell it to your face anyway 8)
How would you deal with criticism? 🙂
Happy weekend! 🙂