Goodness me, am I late to the party or am I late LOL! 4 whole days since we’ve recovered from the fireworks, bubbly and eager new year resolutions. But there’s a reason behind my tardiness. Yeah, I couldn’t get up the energy or time to do a 2015 Year in Review post, nor was I up to posting anything for 1 Jan as I usually do. Some days, you just have to roll with the punches, and do what you feel is right.
Today feels right.
That’s because, for me, today is what I’d call the “First day of the rest of my life”. Today is the day that changes put in place in the old year take effect. Will I weather the storm? Time will tell.
But I wanted to share also a way of thinking that I’m adopting, that you might find useful, going forward.
I often hear the advice – “Live today like it’s the last day of your life”. It’s often given in a YOLO (You Only Live Once) motivation manner. Go out there, seize the day. Carpe Diem! What if you die tomorrow?
But I got to thinking about it, and you know what? I don’t want to live like today’s the last day of my life. That’s silly, to be honest. It puts you in a doomsday state of mind and can result in some really silly consequences. What if I went out and bought the most extravagant thing I have my eye on, only to have to live in debt the rest of my life? What if I did something stupid by telling someone off, who needs telling, only to have to keep looking over my shoulder for the rest of my life because they’re demented? I don’t want that, and neither do you. Yes, do what you want because you want it, but understand that every action has a reaction. Some of them good, some bad. 40 years has taught me that’s not how I want to go.
Instead, I decided I’d flip things around. I’d live today like it was the FIRST day of the rest of my life. I live, with the knowledge and confidence that what I do today, will stand me in good stead in the coming days, months and maybe years. What I do today, will have an effect on how the days and months will unfold, and if I want things to go positively, I have to make a positive start TODAY.
So, I’m seizing the day. I’m carpe-ing the heck out of the diem, because I have a whole life ahead, that can be lived! The question is, how do I want to live it? In sullen, wallowing self-pity, eating myself up with bitterness inside corrupting everyone I come into contact with? Or with an open heart, and a positive mindset.
I can’t forgive. That’s beyond me at this time. But I can pick up those raw, hurt feelings from the past years, wrap them in ribbon and tuck them into the deepest corner of my Mind Palace, to take away some of the pain.
So, today forth, I’m telling myself that I’ll do the things I’ve wanted to do. I’ll do something new. I’ll learn a new skill. I’ll set up a new routine. I’ll do something for me, that I can learn and grow from. I’ll take my chances and roll with the punches. Above all, I’ll live looking straight ahead with optimism and hope, for today is just the first day of the rest of MY life.
Besides, looking back has given me a right crick in the neck! :P
If you too are facing challenges (we all do, in our own way) perhaps this new mantra of mine will help you as well. Look forward, that’s where the future is :)
Whatever happens this 2016, my hope is that you get to the places you want to go. It may not involve a passport. It may just be a peaceful or happy state of mind. But forge on forward and may today be the start of the first day of YOUR life too :)
Happy New Year 2016, friends :)