A few weeks ago, I was sitting in a presentation by a doctor who I believe is a dermatologist at one of the big hospitals in town. It was supposed to be a presentation about the importance of using proper skincare and sunscreen.
However, as the presentation went on, I felt very irked by what the good doctor was saying. In a long, trying half an hour presentation, he effectively slagged off the beauty routine of every woman sitting in the room. You didn’t need serums, he said. You don’t need to use more than 3 products and anything else is a waste of time and money. You won’t be able to keep up with your routine if you use more than 3 products – cleanser, moisturiser and sunscreen. If you spend more than 5 minutes doing your beauty routine, you are wasting your time.
Why, thanks doc. I regularly spend more than 5 minutes on my skincare routine and I use multiple products. I have been doing so for years and hardly slacked off.
I was very irritated. This was a presentation to a roomful of beauty editors from various press and he was saying all this? It wasn’t what he was saying but the way he was saying it, talking down to everyone in the room. I was so irritated, I left the minute it was over. The product being launched was lost to me. All I remember from that event is how irritated this doctor made me feel and how I was convinced I’d never ever want to consult with him. Ever. Interesting, because he was just going into private practice too.
Have you ever had a similar sort of experience? If not at a presentation, have you gone to see a doctor for a problem only to have them slag off your routine, or criticize or belittle you for the choices you make?
Thus far, I’ve seen 2 skin doctors. One was out of necessity as I was battling contact dermatitis on my hands due to an allergy to some organic skincare products. The doctor is a leading dermatologist in town and very popular especially for those who had acne and skin problems. When I went to see him, he was polite and listened to what I had to say, looked at the problem, prescribed some creams that healed my hands and I understood why he was so popular. I later had the opportunity to see him present at 2 product launches, and both times, he just gave facts about his subject and didn’t try to sound smart or funny. The take away was that he knew what he was talking about, and everyone respected that.
Another I met quite irritated me as he was opinionated. However, he listened and he didn’t slag off what I was doing. He just gave me options but left it to me to do what I wanted, if I wanted an alternate way of doing things.
In both these situations, I may not agree with what the doctor does but I will respect them because they don’t go around shooting their mouths off and being condescending.
In the case of the doctor I had the misfortune to listen to during the product presentation, well, lets just say that I have no respect for him at all. Slagging off another person’s routine to make your point, whether intentional or not is, to me unprofessional. There are ways to phrase things diplomatically and quite clearly, said doctor never figured that out.
Have you ever had the misfortune to meet a doctor who slags off your routine? Or if its outside of beauty, criticize you for what you do or belittles your problem even as they are supposed to treat it?
Health wise, I haven’t met a rude or nasty doctor yet *fingers crossed* but I do know that if I do, I will not hesitate to walk out, no matter how good they are, because I don’t believe in taking rude and condescending behaviour from anyone. You?