Happy Saturday Ladies!
Something not very nice happened to me during the week where I was handed out a backhanded insult in front of a bunch of people.
Now we’ve heard of backhanded compliments – a compliment that isn’t given in a nice way – but what about backhanded insults? Its a thinly veiled insult sugarcoated as a compliment. Sucked I tell you!
Well in my case, I sat there, and accepted it as a compliment but it did not stop me seething in anger. However, I allowed the seething to pass in due course, because well… getting angry is aging! 😛
But it led me to think about accepting compliments. How good at you at accepting compliments?
I was never good at it. In true Asian (or Chinese) style – take your pick, I’m both 😛 I’d deflect a compliment in true tai-chi style.
However, I’ve since learned to say “Thank you” whenever I’m paid a compliment. So when someone says :-
Complimenter: “Your dress is pretty”
Me: “Thank you”
Yes, you get that ??? reaction because while I’m now used to saying “Thank you” people who pay compliments aren’t used to that. They would probably be more comfortable if I were to say “Oh this old thing? No-lah! I bought it cheap from pasar malam only…”
So if you’re anything like me, your mission from this day forth is to accept all compliments with a smile and a “Thank you”. If someone compliments you, its a good thing right? 😉
And I’d like to leave you with this video from Cosmetic Candy who illustrates this in the best way possible.
Happy weekend ladies! 🙂
p/s The picture of the little girl above bears no relation to this piece. I just had to include her picture because she was super adorable in her full kimono get up and I’ve been trying to find a way to show her off 🙂 Picture taken at the Meiji Shrine, Tokyo, Japan, Nov 2009.